Updated: Jul 3, 2018
This is a message for Christians: "I'm hurt", is many times the beginning of a dangerous season in one's life. Why is it that when we feel like we have been wronged, or our feelings have been hurt by others, we think we are justified in doing all the wrong things about it? WARNING, Satan will use hurt feelings to take you down if you are not careful! Being hurt doesn't justify gossip. Being hurt doesn't justify revenge. Being hurt doesn't justify unforgiveness and bitterness. Everyone suffers wrong at times, but that doesn't give you the right to hurt others or disobey God. And sometimes our "hurt" is just a misunderstanding, and those that we think have done such evil to us, don't even realize that they have hurt us! Maybe we misunderstood a look or a word or an action, and saw it through our preconceived perception, and wrongly judged the situation! If we would search our hearts we might discover that we are the ones who already had an offense against this person! This is called “Prejudice”. We judge people without really knowing the facts. We didn't take time to really find out, jumped to a conclusion, AND THE DEVIL HELPED FILL IN THE BLANKS! (The name Satan means "accuser". He specializes in falsely accusing God's people one to another!)
That's Why Jesus said in Luke 17:3 . . "be careful! 'If your brother or sister in God's family does something wrong, warn them. If they are sorry for what they did, forgive them. 4 Even if they do something wrong to you seven times in one day, but they say they are sorry each time, you should forgive them.'"
Satan will use misunderstandings to deceive you into thinking people are against you and don't care about you in order to remove you from where God has planted you! The Devil is a liar! Don't be deceived. Jesus said in such cases to go to the person and find out what is really going on first. If it is a misunderstanding, you can clear things up and restore the relationship.
(How many times have I thought that someone was angry with me, or meant somehow to hurt me, but when I asked them about it, I found out that I had totally misread the situation! I'm so glad now that I took to the time a trouble to ask!)
If they have done wrong, warn them in love of the consequences of sin. If they are willing to make it right, you have restored a brother/sister and defeated the plan of the adversary. If they are sorry for the given offense, forgive them and let it go! Being hurt doesn't give you a right to leave your calling and assignment from God and do your own thing. God will call you to account one day and you will have to answer to Him why you abandoned your calling. We will all face hurts and disappointments in life and in our relationships in the Church, workplace, and family. How we handle hurts and disappointment many times will determine whether we will be promoted by God, or derailed by the devil!
Sometimes people are continually 'hurt' every where they go because they carry a spirit of Rejection. Because they have been hurt or rejected in the past they see life through "hurt colored glasses" and this causes them to Judge well meaning people wrongly. Satan uses this deception to keep them down and to keep them from enjoying healthy and loving relationships. They end up rejecting others, rejecting themselves, and eventually rejecting God, because they think He is somehow against them, or that he has failed them. If this is the case with you, God can deliver you from the spirit of rejection and help you to be healed and become healthy on the inside so that you can become spiritually stable and mature. Ask for help from your Pastor or church Leaders.
Remember this, Your destiny as a Christian is vitally connected with the people God brings into your life! God brings people into your life to teach you, challenge you, help you grow up, and to bring correction so that you may not fall prey to the Wolf! You cannot fulfill God’s plan for your life alone! It won’t happen! God’s will for your life involves a healthy connection as a “member” (Romans 12:5) and vital part of the Body of Christ! Only then can you begin to fulfill the command, to; “love one another as I have loved you!” (John 15:12)
I know that there are very serious situations where people have been done wrong, and have been deeply hurt and seem to have no recourse or way to make things right. In such cases, it is always good to get godly counsel and invest in much prayer before making decisions. And I do not recommend people staying in places or in relationships where they are being constantly abused, or where there is a controlling spirit.
But through the years it has broken my heart to see so many believers so easily deceived by Satan, (yes, it was Satan) and displaced from God's will because of mishandling hurt and offense. With godly counsel, prayer, and obedience to God, they could have been spared the Wilderness Life they have chosen by getting out of the will of God.
And what if there are those who have done us wrong with malice, and refuse to repent? Are we so selfish and carnal that we cannot forgive? Does that mean that they are our enemies and we must now hate them? God forbid! “Judge not, and you shall not be judged. Condemn not, and you shall not be condemned. Forgive, and you shall be forgiven.” Luke 6:37 The real enemy of our soul is the Devil, who uses any situation he can to bring division into the Body of Christ.
Cannot we who have received forgiveness from our gracious God because of the blood of Jesus Christ, share that forgiveness with others!? There is something much more dangerous than the hurt, and that is bitterness! Jesus commanded us: “When you stand praying, if you have anything against anyone, forgive it so that also your Father in Heaven may forgive you your trespasses. But if you do not forgive, neither will your Father in Heaven forgive your trespasses.” Mark 11:25-26
So don’t let hurt be an excuse to hurt others and go rogue on God! And don't justify your actions because you were hurt. Being hurt never gives us a license to do wrong! Jesus specializes in healing broken hearts and restoring broken relationships! Pray and ask God for help in properly handling difficult situations. Get help from your Pastor and spiritual Leaders in dealing with hurtful situations and restoring relationships! God is able to bring about restoration and resolution if we will obey Him and truly Love one another! "Love covers a multitude of sins"! (I Peter 4:8) Don’t allow the “whisperer” to come between you and those godly people God has placed into your life! (Prov 16:26)
But rather; “Strive for peace with everyone, and for the holiness without which no one will see the Lord. See to it that no one fails to obtain the grace of God; that no “root of bitterness” springs up and causes trouble, and by it many become defiled;” Heb 12:14-15 You will be glad that you did. Amen